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I think Hansel and Gretel should have left a trail of Happy Baby Puffs so they could retrace their steps through the forest and/or be found. You could totally find my house from a three mile radius. We drop them everywhere we go. Just found one on the front stoop.

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It stands to reason that as you get older time goes by more quickly. Each year is a smaller percentage of your life as you start tacking them onto your age. Some time ago Dan turned to me and said we must be ready for a baby.Said baby was conceived, grown and given life. She has been with us for nearly a year.

Time is such a strange thing, an odd phenomenon. Most mothers agree to this. Days seem endless but weeks fly by. Hours of sleeplessness, holding, rocking, nursing, while we are inside of them have no end but months fall from the calendar in spite of this. New parents look at the date of their child’s birth and the year looks strange. A promise of the future, of all things futuristic. Project further into the future; your child’s tenth birthday, their high school graduation. The class of 2030. Is that even possible? I’m sure our parents felt the same way about these impossible dates if they took the time to contemplate them

But we soldier on, filling out school enrollment forms, soccer sign up sheets, and somehow some way these years move on. Over us, through us, with us.

My baby was born on march 10th, 2012, three weeks early. She was ready, it was time. From the moment of her birth she has taught me about time and how from that moment on she would control how I defined the passage of it. As she grew she let me know her nap time or bed time would not occur without my full attendance bodily, mentally, emotionally. I have continually had to redefine, re establish, re organize how I use my time. Holding a sleeping child limits what activities that one can undertake. Having a child in one’s bed forces one to redefine the quantity and quality of show much sleep a person can function on.

Of course this is one small part of what being a parent is all about, and the lessons we will teach each other will constantly move between us evolving with our ever changing capabilities. Naomi will surely teach me as many things as I teach her, if not more.

Here we are, two days after Christmas. I really suck at keeping up with this blog, so I guess my resolution should be to post more often.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I feel like I’ve whizzed past some pregnancy milestones. Today I am 26 weeks and 4 days. I’ve done the anatomy scan/ultrasound where everything was peachy, gotten to my midwife a few times where I experienced my first real wait in her office. Apparently all of her patients decided to get knocked up in March so there are a slew of births on deck for December/January. Last Monday she was stacked with appointments that were rescheduled from a day where she was at the hospital attending a birth. I guess this could be considered a drawback of not going to a mega OB group with eleventy million doctors, but I really didn’t mind.

Naively I thought I’d escape the glucose test since she hadn’t mentioned it to me, but alas, I was handed a scrip to go to the lab that week. I figured, hell, I’ll just get this over with before Christmas and the inevitable cookie parade that will be going down my throat. I’d just better effin pass because I don’t feel like going through it again.

For those of you that have done this, I have to say it really wasn’t that bad. My midwife told me I could eat a light breakfast before hand with I thought was sane (who expects a pregnant woman to fast, drink that crap and then not eat for a further hour? Stupid.) I had an egg as to not throw off the test with too much starch. I drank almost an entire bottle of water while I did the NY Times crossword and waited. As I took the last sip, the tech behind the reception desk said, “Don’t drink too much water.” Uh, too late. Nobody told me that before.

Whatever. They drew the blood (three vials, jeez) and didn’t mangle me too badly. My arm usually ends up looking like Julia Robert’s in “Steel Magnolias” They asked if I felt okay. I said no worse than usual, got up and left.

I have a friend who owns a local coffee shop/restaurant where DH (my husband’s initials are DH so he’s just Dan now)and I have breakfast every Saturday morning, and we’ve been chatting about pregnancy. She gave birth at the hospital I’m going to with a midwife. She’s given me some invaluable resources about pregnancy, birth, diapers, etc…one of them is metrominis, which I’ve been meaning to go to to take a free cloth diapering instruction class. I know what end to put the diaper on, it’s just figuring out where to start that’s overwhelming me a little. I don’t want to buy fifty of one kind of diaper and say, oh fuck, I should have gotten x or whatever. I also want to do the whole babywearing thing and make my own baby food. This elicits stares, “good lucks!” and swift changes of subject with a lot of people, but I don’t give a shit. I’m not delusional, I know some days will be hard, but I’m firmly convinced in my ability to do a load of laundry. And steam and blend food. If I can make au gratin potatoes with mushrooms and leeks I can boil some freaking broccoli. God.

Anyhow, she was laughing because I told her I am the executive chef for Christmas at my mothers-I transport the side dishes and do the roast there. “Why is it that the pregnant lady is doing all the work?” My husband says “Well otherwise we wouldn’t eat.” Of course I could have backed off this year using my advanced maternal age and pregnancy condition as an excuse, but being type triple A doesn’t allow for such behaviors. I have to say though, the fruits of my labor cookie wise were totally worth it. And anyone in the Huntington/Long Island area needs to get a Buche de Noel cake from Copenhagen. I don’t care if you celebrate Kwanzaa, go get one. I almost broke my “no pregnancy binges” rule and ate half the thing. It almost (almost) made up for missing drinking half the bottle of pink champagne my dad had. Boo.

Of course all this superwoman crap has finally caught up with me and I am freaking exhausted. I slept until 10:30 today and still feel like a zombie. This week is strange for everyone, I suppose, this netherworld between Christmas and New Years. Dan is at work, and it sucks. As it stands now come the new year I will be looking for different work (more on that in another post I guess) which comes at the suckiest timing. Pregnant lady looking for work, great. Anyhow, I’ve been trying not to think too much about it since this week is never really productive for most people.

Dan’s family doesn’t celebrate Christmas (his mother is Jewish and his father is Hindu), so I give him my tales of fuzzy Christmas memories of toy orgies, overindulgence on candy, cookies, gift wrap blizzards, and the day(s) after. Like a bomb went off, a sleepy, pajama-ed week of strewn tinsel, melting snow (sometimes) and toy reorganization. And the thought that after all this, the anticipation, the planning, the suspense, it’s all over for another year.

And now what?

That long wait for the first crocus bulbs of spring…

It’s going to be awhile.

M



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  • babyforbutton: Congrats on Naomi! My baby was born March 15th! Amazing how fast the year has gone by!
  • babyforbutton: update please!! :)
  • reilly873: I've somehow managed to ease the pain the past few nights, but only with some serious, ridiculous pillow arranging. Which is a royal pain in the ass w